Thanks for all the lovely feedback about my first blog last week! So it’s the second week in and I’m writing this much later than intended because I had ‘one of those’ days where things didn’t exactly go to plan! BUT, I committed to myself that I would get this blog done by Wednesday night so here I am. J
I hope you had a chance to do the values exercise, or at least have a think about it. It’s helpful to be clear about what your values are, to write them down and reflect on them when you’re facing a big and important decision, like what sort of job to take. It’s also very valuable (see what I did there..?) to bring your values into your daily life through your actions. Don’t wait for another day, or for the conditions to be right, to act according to your values.
Here’s how to start:
Pick one value you have listed.
Think deeply about what the value means. Google the definition. Write about it for a few minutes. Spend your time in the shower/on the bus/in the car thinking about what the value means to you and times you have demonstrated it, or perhaps haven’t. See if you can remember how you felt at those times.
Next, think of what this value looks like in action. What sort of behaviours go along with this action? See if you can think of at least 3.
Today, or tomorrow, consciously act in ways that are consistent with this particular value. Choose actions that reflect that value in a mindful way.
You can pick a value each day, or focus on one value a week or month, depending on the depth you want to go to, and the number of values on your list.
Here’s an example: One of my values is kindness. This doesn’t mean I always feel kind, or even think kind thoughts (in fact, a quote I love is “Always act kinder than you feel”!), but anyway, kindness is a value that is definitely important to me. In choosing to bring this value into action I could do any or all of these things:
Smile and talk to the bus driver or shop assistant
Buy a cake for someone
Tell someone they look good (although authenticity is also a value, so I wouldn’t say this if it wasn’t true)
Let my cat in when he wants to come in the front (rather than walk around to his cat door)
Decline an ‘invitation’ to bitch and moan about someone
Pick up something someone dropped
Take the dog for walk
Make someone a cup of tea or coffee
It’s worth noting that whether or not you feel like doing these things at that very moment is not the best thing to guide you. You can choose to listen to your feelings, but be guided by your values when choosing an action.
Okay, well I have another value around health and wellness, and an action that fits with this for me is going to be by 11pm so I’m off to bed now….zzzzzzzzz