Hi everyone, I hope you have all had a lovely week and that you have managed to bring at least one of your valuesmore to life through action.
Another way to work with your values is to think about how you can apply them to different parts of your life. The main question to ask yourself throughout this exercise is “what sort of person do I want to be?” in this particular area?
Areas you might want to think about are:
Relationships- with your spouse/partner
Relationships with your family of origin (mum, dad, siblings)
Relationship with your child/children
Choose any of these areas, and ask yourself what sort of person you want to be and how you want to be seen by others in this area of your life.
For example, think about what sort of employee you want to be at work. Reflect back to your values list from week one if you need help. List some words that reflect how you want to be viewed at work. Let’s say you choose ‘professional’ one of your values. Next, think of three specific actions that go along with that word. Using the example of ‘professional’, three actions might be;
arrive at work a few minutes early;
dress smartly, and
prepare for meetings.
These are your ‘valued action’ goals for the next week. Write them down. Commit to them.
If find that you are already doing most or all of the actions that are consistent with the person you want to be in that life area, give yourself a high five and move on to the next value or area.
Here are some other tips:
If you’re not sure where to start, start with the area of your life that is most important to you at the moment.
Don’t get caught in the trap of thinking about what you would like other people or circumstances to change, just focus on yourself.
Don’t worry about your feelings too much. It’s fine to not feel like behaving in a certain way (for example you might not feel like preparing for the meeting) but intentional valued actions can override feelings- this is an important part of being a grown up!
This exercise can also be useful to use even if you don’t have what you want in a particular area. For example, if you don’t have a job you can still spend some time thinking about the sort of employee you want to be if and when you do get a job– who knows, maybe your clarity will help bring what you what you want!
Next week I’ll wrap up ‘VALUES’ for the month of June and move on to another topic for July...
With love, Angie